Do you believe that, at first glance, harmless habits can make people lonely and prevent them from getting married? I can say with confidence that they can. When I worked as a psychologist, I dealt with various problems of my patients. In most cases, the reasons of their life troubles were their habits and fears.
Human habits can exert a big negative influence on the quality of life and make us stray from the right path. It usually happens when people refuse to be awake of their faults and continue sticking to their guns. Unfortunately, they tend to blame others for their unhappiness. This approach will never help you break the vicious circle and overcome your laziness, because bad habits gradually become a significant part of your lifestyle.
Marriage is an extremely important decision in the life of every person. Even highly successful and healthy people often cannot find a real love and get married, because it’s hard to make a right decision in this complicated and artificial world. If absolutely no one wants to get married with you, then the root of the problem lies in the depth of your subconsiousness. It’s high time to plunge into your subconscious mind to find the reasons that poison your love relationship and make you ‘forever alone.’ It’s necessary to grasp the importance of this issue and dedicate enough time to self-improvement.
At first, you should discover the nature of your inner world and weigh all pros and cons of your character. If negative traits and habits are predominant, you shouldn’t surrender to despair, because human mind is powerful and limitless. I’m sure that everyone can break harmless habits and change their private life for the better. The main thing is to be open to change and don’t fear to fight your inner demons. I hope this article will open your eyes to common habits that make people ‘forever alone.’

1. They’re afraid of reality
I think that people who’re afraid of reality will never get married if they do nothing to overcome this fear. It’s been proved that every human being is afraid of reality in a varying degree and it’s absolutely normal, because fear is a natural response to danger. But when these fears and deep-seated phobias take over, people become unable to take risks and responsibilities. A bit later these too sensitive and emotional personalities become the victims of their active imagination. I think that this weakness should be eliminated at earliest convenience. Every woman yearns to get married with emotionally strong and self-confident man.
Diffident personalities should once and for all realize that life is a constant struggle. If you want to reach success in either marriage or career, you should be ready to take up the running and face harsh realities of life with you head held high.

2. They prefer to be passive lazybones
In most cases lonely people are passive lazybones. The pursuit of happiness and self-cultivation aren’t their pair of shoes. They don’t try to take the initiative, but want to take the best things from life. If they believe that they’ll eventually get married, then their chances are limited. Nothing in this life happens eventually.
Life is a dynamic thing that requires people to be extremely active and productive. If you want other successful people to notice your talents, beauty and the depth of your rich inner world, you should open up and do your best to express yourself. But how can you meet a wonderful partner if you enjoy aimless passive pastime cooped up in your house? I’m sure that every lazybones can become an interesting and attractive person, if they finally get involved in different activities and find friends with common interests.

3. They’re too judgmental
Nowadays many people have incredibly high standards, especially when it comes to personal life and marriage. Sometimes human principles don’t let people think rationally, but provoke them to judge others for their failures and weaknesses. People who don’t take any effort to find a compromise will never get married, because a healthy marriage is always based on mutual understanding and respect. Wise people say that sometimes it’s necessary to keep silent if you’re at odds with your partner. It will help you keep your love relationship healthy and strong.
Furthermore, women should keep in mind that their habit of blaming their partners for low incomes can seriously damage man’s self-esteem. As a result, deep-seated contentment in man’s heart can gradually chill the ardor of his love. By all means, try not to offend people around you and you’ll be able to get married in a quite short period of time.

4. They dedicate their life to career
Workaholism has become one of the most difficult and actual problems of a modern world. This problem has a lot of advantages and disadvantages. Do you believe that workaholism can make you a happy person? If a successful career is the top priority in your life, then sooner or later, you’ll achieve a desirable result. All you have to do is throw yourself into this work and live for it.
Unfortunately, between two stools you fall to the ground. If you choose career, then you should be ready to sacrifice your health and love. Almost all workaholics find it difficult to build and maintain happy relationships, because they work and think only about their projects 24 hours a day. They have no time for love and romance.

5. They cry for the moon
Today both men and women have blurred vision of reality. It seems to me that ladies still believe that one day a wonderful knight in shining armor will appear and win their hearts. Men waste valuable time looking for a bachelor’s wife. It’s high time to get rid of this pointless habit and finally realize that perfect people do exist only in your imagination. The only way to find a suitable partner is to set realistic goals. You need to be sure that your dreams and desires coincide with reality. If you’re dreaming to get married with Johnny Depp by all means, then your private life is in danger.
I think that these annoying habits may prevent people from getting married and steal their happiness. There’s no need to become panic-stricken and worry about it. I have good news as well. All these harmful habits can be easily broken and replaced with good ones. I believe that pure love will help people close their eyes to each other’s shortcomings. But it doesn’t mean that you can relax and stop improving yourself. What other habits can prevent us from getting married? We’d like to know your point of view!

12 ‘Must Know’ Dating Rules For Classy Men And Women You may be a nice person and must be possessing all the decent qualities. But one should know the basic rules to ensure that your date has a nice time with you. Some of these tips should never be overlooked in order to have a perfect moment. There are no specific dating rules which are to be followed. It comes after many dating experiences, there are a few times which all of us encounter in a date. Some of them may be good and some of them may be bad. You must incur some dating rules for yourself too, and probably, they must be the best ones. But if you don’t want to take any risk, and what it to be the classiest of all, then this is the list all you need.
1. Flaunt your best side! Who doesn’t like to be praised from the one you admire? Try dressing up well when you are up for a date. It may seem bad or disrespectful when your date is dressed superbly well and you are standing there in shabby attire. If you are not very sure about the perfect clothes, casually bring the topic up while deciding your date. Ask about him/her about fixing a date at an elegant restaurant or have just a casual dinner.

2. Keep a check on your cleanliness and your breath! Clean nails and keeping yourself groomed enough is very important and should never be overlooked. There are tiny details which some of us might forget. When you are done with your meal, make sure you excuse yourself to have a mouth freshener. If you are lucky enough, you might get your first kiss on the very first date itself. Make sure you don’t smell like a restaurant kitchen while you get close to him/her.

3. Don’t get out of control! You should know your limits while you get drinks for yourself. At times, you might feel drunk or a bit tipsy just after a few glasses. And if you get to that end, your date might be in danger and not end well. Avoid having many drinks before your date gets over. It’s worth to use it as precaution to avoid any after embarrassment.

4. Don’t annoy your date! It’s quite easy to get carried away when you’re having a delightful conversation with your date. Don’t bother him/her with any personal matters if at all they are not comfortable with it. This is one of the biggest dating rules. If they are not ready to discuss about their exes, then don’t force them to do so in no time. They will do it themselves if they get comfortable enough.

5. Be on time! This is a basic etiquette. If you walk in a business meeting a bit late, then it’s still fine. But, if you are late on a date, then it’s bound to be terrible. There’s a possibility that the one you are meeting is going to be the one in the future. But if you turn up late on the first go, then there’s a slight chance that he/she may lose interest in you or think that you are careless in concern of the date.

6. Be truthful! Don’t try to be fake while you passing on compliments to the one. Be very sincere about yourself. Don’t be too boasting about your achievements just to impress your date. You will end up looking too desperate on your first date. A fake half compliment might look insulting and a bit embarrassing in front of your date.

7. Prepare some conversations before hand in your mind! Your date might be very excited to meet you for the very first time and get to know more about you. But, it’s quite tough to strike up an interesting conversation with a person you just met. So, try to form some conversation before hand in your mind, so that you don’t stand blank in front of them.

It’s a tough world out there… full of awkward first dates, bad sex and limited chances at orgasms.
Women now associate the dating landscape with the same risks many face going into the arctic tundra.
It’s cold, uncomfortable and it’s more than likely that you’ll die before getting that fire lit.
After years of bad trips and valuable packing lessons, we go in a little more prepared each time. We’ve learned tips, tricks and lessons that could only be experienced firsthand, quickly learning the scams, the men who are just trying to swindle you and certain places we will just never go again.
We’ve changed our clothes, hair and grooming styles to fit the destination, yet there’s something we can’t seem to change that’s making the journey a treacherous hike. Something we can’t hide and something we refuse to keep at home. Something we won’t check at baggage claim or give up at customs.
Unfortunately, for women, intelligence many times hinders our travels and keeps us from the promise land. Because, for all you bright and educated women out there, what you feel is real… intelligent women are more likely to be single.
The popular saying “ignorance is bliss” doesn’t exactly cover the broad spectrum of woes women feel as they sit alone Friday nights with no one to discuss Nietzsche or read lines from Proust with.
It doesn’t assuage a woman’s pain as her parents ask where her boyfriend is and why she can’t find a nice guy.
The saying should be something closer to “ignorant women get the man and intelligent women never feel bliss.”

But why is this? Why don’t men want women with whom they can converse and who challenge them? When did the aversion to strong and intelligent women become a code orange? When did everyone just want to go to the Bahamas and lie around?
In an article by “The Wire,” financial reporter, John Carney, gives one explanation for this phenomenon, deducing, “successful men date less successful women not because they want ‘women to be dumb’ but rather because they want ‘someone who prioritizes their life in a way that’s compatible with how you prioritize yours.’”
Basically, they want someone who isn’t ever going to let her career come before making dinner and pleasing them first.

They want a woman who is dumb enough to make them a priority and, unfortunately, for all those sane, rational and intelligent women out there, there’s a hefty number of these women out there.
There are plenty of women who will give up their lives for men, who will refuse to challenge them, fight them and refuse to see them as their equals, but their saviors.
Then again, deciding what kind of woman you are is like choosing between a rock and a hard place. If you’re stupid, you’re not taken seriously, but if you’re smart, you’re taken too seriously. Women everywhere are flailing under this double-edged sword. A beautiful, attractive female isn’t desirable for her mind, and those with strong characters are seen as threatening, masculine and undesirable.
A study conducted with 121 British participants reported findings that females with high intelligence in male/female relationships were seen as problematic.
Their intelligence were predicted to cause problems in the relationships. Whereas, high intelligence in the male partner was not seen as problematic, but desirable.
These cultural stereotypes and gender biases are inhibiting women from being seen as equals. Rational and educated women are being ignored and chastised for their intelligency

It’s okay if the man you love has a tonne of money or is comfortable enough to take care of you but the truth remains that money is an important factor in any relationship or marriage.

 

 

This means your man’s pocket should not be overlooked and this includes how he handles his finances because you don’t just marry a man, you marry his finances and debts (if he has any).
Catherine Donaldson-Evans of She Knows lists five tips on how to handle money issues with your man.
Talk about money openly: It’s crucial that you chat about money with your significant other, even though it can be a sensitive, hot-button topic or you think it doesn’t matter to you. “You may not care about money, but you still need to discuss it,” says Gabrielsen. “It may not be the easiest subject to broach. But you always have to discuss money, ideally before you get married.” Those conversations should continue after you tie the knot, too. Many couples hold regular “money meetings” to discuss the state of their finances.

Make money a factor when choosing a spouse: If the man who’s won your heart is a major spender or has a mountain of debt, that could be a red flag. “If you marry someone with a significant amount of debt, that debt becomes yours as well,” says Gabrielsen. So figure out where you both stand and be honest about whether it’s a good match. “Part of being compatible with someone is having a financial path and agreeing on how to achieve it,” he says. “I don’t think it’s the number one thing you should look at, but being compatible from a goals and financial standpoint is important.”

Understand where your money is and what to do if something unexpected happens: Too often, says Gabrielsen, he sees one spouse running the show when it comes to household finances and the other having no clue about where the money is going. Big mistake. “Even if you don’t want to be in charge of the money, you need to know where the assets are and whether you have an estate plan,” he says.


“You need to know what to do if something happens to your spouse.”
Compromise: It’s highly unlikely that the man you marry will be identical to you in his approach to money. That’s OK. Couples need to meet in the middle when it comes to financial decisions they don’t completely agree on. “It comes down to black and white numbers if you want to save a certain amount for retirement,” says Gabrielsen. “But when you’re deciding things like what kind of house to buy and how many vacations a year to take, it should be a compromise.”
Be a team with a plan: Don’t just wing it when it comes to tackling your finances. Instead, be strategic about it and work together. “You need to have a game plan,” Gabrielsen advises.

“Understand where you want to go and how you want to get there. That should be done jointly as a team. Both members of the team should agree to the plan. When you do that, it leads to a lot less fighting.” Marriage is a meeting of the minds. And your finances should be, too. So yes, money matters in love — quite a lot, as it turns out. “Having a good financial strategy is part of a good relationship,” Gabrielsen says. “It’s important to be on the same page, especially when it comes to marriage.”

This is very serious and hilarious at the same time. Radio stations in Lagos are shutting down programs and leaving early due to fuel scarcity. Another photo after the cut..what’s our country turning into

Seems a bit funny but seriously something needs to be done about this before it affects the country(Nigeria)
badly in the industrial aspect of the economy as many industries/companies are not ready to spend all their work for on buying fuel to power their facilities..
Please and please Nigeria Govt we need chnages to this,the masses are at stake!


Yesterday Limpopo singer Kcee sold recharge cards along
major roads in Lagos (see here ). He changed his clothes
and went back to the streets to sell another product. The
singer explains why he’s doing this. See that and plenty
more photos after the cut…
“Yesterday I went to different parts of Lagos under
the disguise of a hawker, hawking MTN recharge
cards and Magnum cream which are brands that I
represent as their ambassador. My aim was to
interact with my fans and people on the street which
is giving birth to a new foundation that will help take
people out of the street as my own little way of
giving back to the streets of Lagos that was once a
home for me. During the cause of my interaction
with my friends on the streets yesterday, I was able
to discover some raw talents who are ready to work
if the opportunity comes their way. In the nearest
future from now we shall be making a big
announcement as regards to taking people away
from the streets. God bless my fans and keep us all”
Here are more photos from the cut.

A Nollywood actor and his wife have sensationally told the po­lice why they decided to sell their two-year-old son, Samuel Chukwuneye for N350, 000 to a Port Harcourt based woman simply identified as Ogechi. The couple, though not legal­ly married, had been living together. They were identified as Kanayo Awurum, 29, and Ugochi Kelechi, 28, both of who are from Ikeduru Local Government Area in Imo State.
Trouble started when Ugochi, who is pregnant with their second child, suspected that her live-in lover, who she claimed gave out their son temporarily to Ogechi, was planning to abandon her in Lagos. She alert­ed and confessed to the police about what they did before relocating to Lagos. Kanayo was arrested and handed over to the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS), Lagos police command, Ikeja for further investigation.


According to a police source, Kanayo, who is an upcoming Nollywood actor im­pregnated Ugochi more than two years ago and ran away. He returned sometime in October 2014 and apologized to her with a promise to marry her. Ugochi accepted him back and got pregnant again. When his re­sources dwindled, he convinced Ugochi to relocate with him to Lagos State as soon as they were able to raise money.
He convinced her to use their son as a collateral to collect a loan that will be paid back in three months. Unknown to Ugochi, her son was sold to one Mrs Ogechi who lives in Port Harcourt. Armed with the pro­ceed of the sale, the couple relocated to Lagos and rented an apartment at Ikotun, Lagos.
Two weeks later, Kanayo travelled home with an excuse that there was a pro­ject that he was called upon to execute. He left his lover with little or no money with the promise to return in two days. Days dragged into weeks and Ugochi was left at the mercy of the landlord and neighbours who gave her money for feeding.
Although Kanayo called giving excuses why he was yet to return, Ugochi became frustrated especially when her lover told her that their son, Samuel might not return again. She also learnt from the landlord, that her lover was making arrangement to col­lect the remaining part of the rent and send her packing. Ugochi confided in their family friend who alerted the police of the develop­ment.
Pleading for mercy, Kanayo said that he took the decision because of his quest to give Ugochi who he described as his fiancée a better life.


 “I met Ugochi during our sec­ondary school days in Amakaohia Compre­hensive High School, Ikeduru, Imo state. We became lovers and continued our rela­tionship after graduation. Fortunately, she got pregnant in 2012. I asked her to keep the baby because I loved her so much and wanted her to be the mother of my children. I met her brother who told me what to do to legalize the relationship. Sincerely, I want­ed to legalize it but, I did not have much money so I left Ikeduru for Owerri. I am a trained painter and was also fortunate to be allowed to feature in some Nigerian mov­ies. During that time, I called her severally to explain why I had to run to Owerri. She was angry and refused to pick my call or see reasons with me,” Kanayo narrated.
In October 2014, Kanayo returned and sought the love and forgiveness of Ugochi who had given birth to a baby boy.

“With the little money that I had, I was ready to marry Ugochi. I pleaded with her severally and luckily, she accepted. I made another attempt to ask for her hand in marriage and her family vehemently refused. They threatened to get me arrested if I dared to come close to their sister again. But be­cause she loves me so much, we continued our relationship till she became pregnant again.
“At this point we needed to leave town before her family would notice that she is pregnant again. I convinced her to elope with me to Lagos where we will start our lives together till her family is ready to ac­cept me as their in-law.

I was already broke and was sourcing for loan. My plan was to travel to Lagos and contact my mentor, Jerry Leonard who is also an actor and film producer. All the persons that I met for a loanrefused but another actor, Emmanuel (full names with­held by us) gave me the only way out,” he said.
The only way out given to him was to sell his two-year-old son and get quick money.

“He told me to use what I have to get what I don’t have. Initially, I wanted to use my son as a collateral to get a loan but Emmanuel said that outright sale will be the best. He was the one who contact­ed, Mrs. Ogechi from Port Harcourt with the promise that I will pay him N50,000. I simply told Ugochi that the baby will be kept with one woman till we settle down. Since we were eloping, there was no need to contact any family member. Luckily, the woman paid N350, 000 and I gave Emma­nuel Ibeh, N50,000.

I contacted my mentor, Jerry and he was able to secure an accommodation for us in Ikotun area of Lagos,” he further said.
Kanayo insisted that he had plans to re­turn and trace his son.

“I know that what I did was bad but I did it to protect my fian­cée. She will be an object of ridicule by her family if they discovered that she is preg­nant again without a husband. I returned to Owerri when my brother called me that there is a big painting job. My plan was to also raise money to buy back our son. Meanwhile, we were having several issues with the house and I asked the landlord to refund us part of the money we paid. Un­fortunately, I never knew that Ugochi had reported me to the police. I was arrested when I returned to Lagos to collect part of the money we paid for that house at Ikotun. I am sorry but all I did was out of love,” Kanayo said.

Wizkid vs. Olamide vs. Davido… Who Rocked The Stylish Red Suit Best? PHOTO!

by LALA, for 36NG
Published: May 16, 2015 at 8:28 am in fashion - 20 comments


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Olamide, Wizkid and Davido are definitely the rave of the moment when it comes to music in Nigeria right now.
These three have been compared on several basis and we fashion lovers thought it would only be fair to not only compare their talents and music prowess, but also their sense of style.

They all rocked a pair of red designer suit, at one point in time and at different events. We would like to know who you think rocked it best?


August Alsina Reveals One Of His Eyes Has Gone Blind As He Undergoes Surgery

by 36NG STAFF, for 36NG
Published: May 16, 2015 at 10:29 pm in Global - no comment


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Music sensation August Alsina appears to have lost one of his eyeball to blindness if his Instagram post is to be taken with seriousness. The 22 year old shared a photo of himself in with laser beams on his two eyes as he battles an unknown eye disease.
The singer on Instagram said…


So I have this eye disease.. Blind in my left, and losing vision in my right. In order to prevent my eyesight from deteriorating I had to do this surgery. This shit is beyond painful & Life be throwin’ a nigxa curve balls but what I’ve gained from it all is priceless…
A lot of things that are so natural to us in life (like waking up and being able to see👀) we can take it for granted. Thank God the OG for allowing me to see.. The good the bad the ugly, I’m just glad to see
Doctors say if the singer goes for regular medical check ups, it is highly unlikely for him to have lost his eyes to blindness. We wish August best as he undergoes surgery

Mikel Obi’s Girl Olga Gushes Over Him, Says “You’re My Cup of Tea” – Photo

by 36NG STAFF, for 36NG
Published: May 16, 2015 at 10:54 pm in sports - no comment


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Chelsea midfielder John Obi Mikel and his Russian girlfriend are getting stronger by the day and an engagement news might be closer than we think.

Mikel Obi’s Girl Olga Gushes Over Him, Says “You’re My Cup of Tea” – Photo

by 36NG STAFF, for 36NG
Published: May 16, 2015 at 10:54 pm in sports - no comment


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Chelsea midfielder John Obi Mikel and his Russian girlfriend are getting stronger by the day and an engagement news might be closer than we think.
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Mikel and his girl Olga stay together in his London mansion although Olga goes home once in a while. The model shared a photo of the midfielder with a caption “You are my cup of tea,” and indeed Mikel appears to be making one.
Chelsea recently won their 4th premier league title and Mikel won his second.


Dele Momodu Celebrates 55th Birthday With Wife And Lovely Children – PHOTOS!

by LALA, for 36NG
Published: May 17, 2015 at 12:03 am in Entertainment - no comment


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Ovation International Boss, Dele Momodu turned 55 yesterday and he celebrated it with members of his family, including his lovely kids and wife.
He took his birthday to spend some bonding time with his lovely family as no major celebrations took place.










Who knew she was this flexible? The businesswoman and mother of four shared this funny photo on her instagram page



Khloe Kardashian.

Tim Westwood asked a lot of questions and she had some interesting answers. Read excerpts from her interview below:

On Her Relationship with French Being Flawed and Moving On: I didn’t think [it was perfect]. It’s always the other people that think so, sometimes you don’t think that yourself. It’s always the outside looking in that thinks that should be the perfect thing. Sometimes you’re on the inside and you don’t really see it like that. I’m not really ever stuck in a difficult situation. I know what works for me and what doesn’t work for me. If something doesn’t feel good, I always find my way out of the situation and keep it moving. I’m not a grudge holder or a negative person.

On Possibly Getting Played by the Kardashians: Well, you know how they say, ‘Rats love to sneak up and eat the cheese.’ That’s what happens. But f**k it, life goes so far on. Cuz, I gets more and more

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